Part of my bedtime ritual is reading fluff. I’m looking for totally uninspiring reading that is as mindless as possible. I have a hard time sleeping, so being inspired is the last thing I seek before bedtime. Phase one of my fluff nighttime readings is People Magazine. I read it slowly and do not allow any speed reading.
Last night People Magazine failed me! How dare they inspire me!? In a (new) section of the magazine they asked celebrities, “What’s the most beautiful thing anyone has ever said to you?”
Countless celebrities answered with something that their mother had said to them. That got me thinking. (Oh no! Not at bedtime.) And indeed it was something that my mother had said to me that is my answer. In fact, it was two things she said.
My mother was only awake for short periods of time on the last day she was conscious. It was just enough time to pour out precious words as she slipped into days of silence before passing away.
In one of those moments she said, “I know you are going to be okay Kayla.” She nodded slowly, but enthusiastically, and fell back asleep. She was a worrier and knowing that she had that peace before she died was priceless to me. And in the days when I don’t feel okay, I can cling to her peace and those words.
Later she woke again. She looked up at me tending to her and said, “Having you here to take care of me has been like having my mom here with me. You remind me of her.”
My mother loved and missed her mom all the years of my life. She often told me I reminded her of her mother. I never knew my grandmother, except through my mother’s stories, but I knew she lived to serve. She was a nurse and a natural caregiver. My love language is acts of service and I believe that my grandmother’s love language as well.
To have my mother tell me that she felt like her beloved mother was there caring for her, through me, was the most beautiful compliment she could ever pay me. And my mother had been generous with compliments.
That got me thinking further. What’s the most beautiful thing anyone has ever said to you? Even better yet – how can you beautifully compliment those around you? How can you fill the tank of your loved ones?
Speak words that heal, words that sustain, and words that empower.
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